Why can’t We Disagree Without Being Disagreeable?

Lawson Wallace
2 min readJul 14, 2020
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After my mom died, it was just me, my dad, and my uncle Richard, my mom’s

brother. My dad and my uncle loved each other, and they loved to have loud

debates where they solved all the world’s problems.

They disagreed often, sometimes the discussions were heated, but they

always ended the discussions by agreeing to disagree. The Country is so

polarized now, Social Media has turned into a battleground.

And that’s sad.

I had to unfriend and block people on Facebook that I had been talking to

for years because they couldn’t disagree without insults and name-calling.

In my mind, a debate is for enlightening people or persuading people to my

point of view, or me being the one enlightened or persuaded.

Calling someone that disagrees a Nazi or Dumbass doesn’t persuade or

enlighten, it only hardens that person’s resolve.

I read somewhere that Tip O'Neil and Gerald Ford were good friends, they

were golfing buddies. They were on opposite sides politically, but off the

floor of the House, they were good friends.

I don’t believe we will ever get that back; in fact, I’m sure we will not, because

once civility is lost it is hard to get it back, and the Nation is poorer because of


If we all thought and believed the same way, the world would be a boring

place. I wish that we could talk to each other again without the anger.

Lawson Wallace

63-year-old married guy, I have been writing stories for years, but never submitted or published anything. I write about my successes and failures, everything.